Okay, so...before I start writing, please know this is not aimed at you. The people Im referring to dont read my blog...of that I'm confident. And I'm not just referring to the present, but more just a general rant anyway...
So, you know what totally bugs? When "me" takes on a "we" and loses the "my" and the "I" in life. What do I mean? Oh...I just will NEVER understand how or WHY someone would want to lose their identity just b/c they're dating someone. It's such an odd concept to me.
"Can you hang out Friday?"
Response "Well, we were going to ...."
Alright. That's cute. But for real. It feels so fair weather. And if you cant be without your SO (significant other) long enough to have a meal, there's something wrong with you. I'm sorry, but there is. You bring different things to conversations and make relationships more exciting when you have your OWN lives, too....as in "ME, MY, MINE."
Granted, I know I have a different opinion than a lot b/c I've had long distance things before...so I'm used to being "party of one!" haha.. and I'm an only child... But... really, when I like someone....or love someone....of COURSE I want to be around them....frequently. The thought of locking myself away for a weekend with someone I like seems incredibly appealing oftentimes... I also feel like it's important...integral actually... to include them in my day and the occurences of the same...even if in little texts or a call...As long as I feel "wanted/included," I'm pretty happy...haha...But, if I was around someone EVERY.SINGLE.FREE.MOMENT.24/7, I'd lose my shit. It's not like they're a child taking a first step. You can miss an hour or two of each other's lives. Please also know I'm reffering WAY less to marriage. I mean..hello...you live together. Duh.
I was just texting a friend tonight and something she said triggered my diatribe. Sorry. haha...
4 comments:
I totally agree. I know a few people (a sister in particular) that not only lose their own identity and ability to make ANY sort of decision on their own (I mean they can't do a Single. Damn. Thing. without talking to their SO about it first), but they become LIKE their SO. I mean, radical personality changes. This bothers me in a major, major way. Rant on!
haha! THANK YOU!!!!!
Oh my! I just had this rant yesterday....can you please leave your man for a night, seriously?!?!!?
I'm slow to read your blog, sorry...
BUT I am totally on board with the "we" thing. It's actually become a pet peeve of mine. I mean, let's say I ask someone if they want to hang out one night. Instead of saying, "Sorry, WEEEEEE have plans," I think they should say "Sorry, I have plans with *insert BF's name here.*" I don't know why it bugs me, since both phrases are technically saying the same thing, but I guess I just like to hear the "I" as a reminder that my friends are individuals. Bitchy? Maybe, but glad you're on my page Jax : )
Lauren
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